“Don’t You Know Who I am?” How To Stay Sane In An Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, And Incivility. By Dr. Ramani Durvasula, PH.D.

Over the past few months I saw articles written in Psychology Today, on Quora and other platforms but brushed over them because I thought, oh here we go with another phenomenon.

I came across Dr. Ramani’s interviews on Med Circle and listened to what she had to say about the topic and boy was I enlightened.

It is a pervasive personality behavior that has permeated our daily lives. People we interact with at work, personal lives and the public at large.

While listening to her interviews, podcasts and YouTube videos, I became interested in what caused such behavior.

Definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding. Taken from Narcissistic Personality Disorder – HelpGuide.org July 11, 2019.

Think about interactions you have had with people in your lives. You may recognize some of the behaviors mentioned above.

I am curious by nature and like understanding what makes us tick. I bought the book on Amazon Kindle and immediately deleved into it. I wanted to understand what caused such behavior. During my reading I started to unravel some of my own interactions with certain situations and was able to pinpoint what occurred.

My suggestion, if you are interested in learning about it, read this well layed out guide. Her voice of reason gives insight to such a complex condition.

Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice and Professor of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles and visiting Professor at the University of Johannesburg.

You will not be disappointed. You will walk away with a lot of aha moments and a solid understanding of how this disorder starts and what it means.

Happy reading!


    • Oh yes. That is true. She talks about that in one of her chapters. An interesting point she raised on her podcasts/YouTubes was our temperaments we are born with. If not validated enough during our formative years, we use what is considered maladaptive behaviors. And they play out in interactions with others. Such a complex condition. I’ve listened and watched most of her content. But the book brought it all together. Thanks for reading my missives.


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